I think its about time to have a little chat, just us gals. As it was so eloquently articulated in Mean Girls, I think there has been some girl on girl crime. What do I mean? It’s what we’ve forgotten: we are MANY. Many types of talent, viewpoints, and beautiful. From the all-American girl, the artist, the free spirit, the classic, the innovator, and the blends of all or some of them, we have some serious badassery out there in the world. Instead of defending your divides, join hands with your fellow sisters outside your ranks. Only then you’ll then find out, they never hated you anyway.
I Am Many: Rebecca Minkoff
When we go beyond the lip service of supporting others and actually band together to celebrate our differences as women, it’s one of the most empowering things we can do. When Preen.Me reached out to me on behalf of Rebecca Minkoff for this campaign, I knew it was one I wanted to share with each of you. We all have individual qualities and influences: micro or macro-influencer, introvert or extrovert, mainstream or some niche alternative or blend of anything in between. Treat it as an opportunity to showcase a new unpaved road, or augment and strengthen an existing one!
What No One Talks About
I’m going there: where we go wrong is in the conversation that few hear, what goes on behind the scenes. We’ve all been privy to those “burn book” or sneak diss types of conversations. I personally think these conversations stem from insecurity and weakness. When you’re happy with yourself, what another girl dresses like or talks like, or what size she wears isn’t an issue. I’ve seen this hurtful behavior more than I’d like to admit, especially within the blogger world. If a micro-influencer is different than you, that’s a GOOD thing! If they’re similar, that’s also a good thing. Finding people who share your interests or open your eyes to new ones is always a good thing. Also, who cares if they’re different or creative in ways other than you? It’s not a reason to isolate them. Remember how vastly different the characters in Sex & The City were? It’s powerful and motivating. They each brought strengths to the table to help each other.
Be Better, Achieve Greatness. Repeat.
We are better than our insecurities, and we owe it to ourselves and our fellow ladies to be better. The more we cut each other down, the more opportunity we give to men to treat us the exact same way. If we don’t show ourselves respect first, how can others know how to treat us? If you want to be treated like an equal, act like it. During my time spent in the military, from college at the Naval Academy to years as a junior officer in the Marine Corps, I truly learned what the secret was to earning respect. Performance and professionalism on the job and socially. Those that weren’t team players (women or men) earned less respect socially and professionally. Aim to rise above the pettiness. Our differences are what make us powerful and also interesting. Be better about cultivating that in everyday life.
Ladies, we are all MANY, and all special in our own way. Let’s all make the commitment to making our future as females as strong as it can be.
Thank you to Preen.Me and Rebecca Minkoff for sponsoring this post.
Coat: Daphnee Faux Fur Coat, Deby Debo
Tee: I Am Many Tee, c/o Rebecca Minkoff
Bag: Jean Crossbody, in Peony c/o Rebecca Minkoff
Skirt: Tech Knit Checkered Skirt, Tory Sport
Sneakers: Ultra Boost 350 V2, Adidas in Triple White
Jewelry: c/o Ragen Jewels
Primer: Ambient Light Correcting Primer, Hourglass in Luminous Light
Foundation: The Influencer Clean Longwear Foundation, Sunday Riley in 140
Highlighter: Killawatt Freestyle Highlighter, Fenty Beauty in Lightning Dust/Fire Crystal
Blush: Air Blush Soft Glow Duo, Marc Jacobs Beauty in Lines & Last Night
Contour: Match Stix Matte Skin Stick, Fenty Beauty in Mocha and Rum
Eyes: Naked Petite Heat Palette, c/o Urban Decay
Lashes: Ardell Wispies, Target
Lips: Soft Matte Liquid Lipstick, Lawless Beauty in George
Photos by Alix of Alix Kramer Photography